I have heard people talking about what’s right and what’s wrong.  They will explain their actions, justify their actions, tell you that the law is wrong and that it should be changed and so forth.

Mostly in life people have different views on what is right and what is wrong.   We have varying views on, who should be told certain things, whose behaviour we should ignore , who should be confronted, whose confidence we should break and the list goes on.  We take action on many grounds; ego, justice, moral, self-preservation, principle, truth, fun, laughs and many more.

In life, however, every action will have a consequence.  For example if you steal something (right or wrong) and get caught (right or wrong) you will be charged (right or wrong).   As Newton puts it, every action has an equal and opposite reaction.

I have found that some of the worst predicaments, in terms of relationships, in life have resulted from not being aware that every action will in fact have a consequence.  Being so consumed in the energy of the moment and acting upon it without any reflection or acknowledgement of the consequence can lead to our biggest mistakes.  Some people can be so oblivious to the consequences of their actions that it is the people in their circle that feel the pain.  I have heard myself ask clients, “what reaction did you expect?”

If we practice being aware of the consequences of our actions, then we are more likely to let things go or possibly take on a different course.   I’m referring to words spoken between people and the different mental stances we all assume.  The things people say about others behind their backs; the words people text when they are angry;  the ‘blame’ people throw around like a ball when things don’t go according to plan or as expected. I’m talking about the pointing of fingers, the letters people send- the wrongs they make right, so to speak.

Whenever you find yourself in a situation that you deem to be wrong and you endeavour to make right just remember that:

Whatever action you choose-it will have consequences.

Always ask yourself if you are prepared to accept the consequences.  Ask yourself when you are neither very happy nor very angry.  If you will gain in some way or your gain will far outweigh all of the worst consequences then GO FOR IT!

By reviewing the consequences of your actions, what you might find, however, is that you actually STOPPED yourself from making your biggest mistake ever- whether or not you consider in your mind to have been right or wrong.

Photography by MDH and Fagun Mishra