Why are your Dreams not coming True?

Last post I talked about accepting an injustice or in other words, having an injustice dealt upon you.

I received feedback from many people who told me that they could not “accept” what had happened.   So I thought there may have been many others who felt the same. Just to be clear, “accept” does not in any way mean “that it is right”.  This is why it is an “injustice”.

Now before I move to Part 2 of “Accepting an Injustice”, in which I wanted to focus on a little bit of psychology behind why people respond to your injustice or that of others, in ways that can sometimes, leave you gobsmacked, I decided to take a break to talk about why your dreams are not manifesting.


Because right now, I have been talking to many people who are feeling trapped within the energy patterns of others.  They are feeling unable to shift their reality. I will in fact talk about this in more detail later; however for now, I wanted to give you a starting point.

Coincidentally, I attended a seminar on the weekend which also touched upon many of the following ideas.   In the seminar we talked about how when you come into the world you operate more dominantly via the right side of the brain- your creation centre.

As you grow up you hear millions and trillions of self- limiting ideas from your family and the people in your circle.  These are statements like, “money doesn’t grow on trees”, “well that’s a silly idea”, “no- that won’t work”.  You then switch straight to left brain, analytical mode and lose your access to your creation zone.

These responses by the people to whom you are closest, impose on you self-limiting beliefs about who you are, your purpose, and what you are capable of achieving.

Fast forward 40 years down the track and you are standing there thinking:

“Somehow this is NOT the ME I envisaged to be” and,

“This is not what I was supposed to be doing” or

“Why am I not waking up excited every day?”

Next Question, “How do I go from here to the place I envisaged and fulfil my greatest goal”.

Well in short- Start creating by accessing that part of the brain that creates.

How do you access that part?

By Meditation- which shuts off the analytical chatter.

Hold that thought and I will talk more about Meditation styles and techniques later.   However, for now I want to focus on something else:

Even if you have the perfect vision and the perfect meditation technique, you will also have traits that have stopped you from becoming this vision.

Firstly- are you seeking the opinions of people who imposed their self-limiting beliefs upon you in the first place?  Usually when we have a vision or a goal we seek opinions and advise from our family and friends.  As you know, there are many people who think it was their birth role to sabotage any creative idea that comes their way.

Rule NO 1– Don’t seek the opinion of people more messed up that you.

Rule No 2 Find the missing link- What is the trait that has stopped you or stood in the way of your goal? Or alternatively, what is the trait you NEED to link who you are now, to the person you always wanted to be, or the best version of yourself.

How do you work out what that trait is that has stood in the way of your deam?

Once again- IN MEDITATION.

Put some music on, relax your body and visualise.

Visualise the person you always wanted to be- then look at this person from your eyes as you are now, and see what it is that held you back.

It will invariably be either a self-limiting belief about yourself or if you are an Empath, it might be that you are putting others’ needs before your own.  It might be your addiction to taking others with you down your journey or even having to have the approval of your partner.  It may even be  that you have allowed your energy and attention to be drawn by loved ones into their dramas or insecurities. It could be that you have become reactive to people that have belittled you. It may be all of the above or a combination of these and other traits.

Whatever the reason, the result is the same:

Others have zapped your energy-drained you!

You beautiful creative energy has gone down a well.

Time to claim it back with RULE NO 3

Make a solemn promise to never let anyone take or deflate you energy.  Refuse to be pulled into their reality.  If they are unjustly blaming you- let them! As you feel yourself trigger or if you feel any movement within, remember this is your creative energy-do you want to waste it?  Also remember that when people say nasty things to you or do narcissistic things, you probably are likely to manifest resentment within. As Nelson Mandela says, harbouring resentment is like drinking poison and thinking it will kill the other person. Stay connected to your energy.

So next time you feel someone drawing your energy

Tell them to go outside because:

There’s a whole universe they can draw from.

Tell them to leave yours alone


Photography by MDH and Fagun Mishra
  • Marie Patiniotis
    Posted at 18:53h, 17 July Reply

    You can easily get caught! x

    • Tania Van Zijl
      Posted at 19:01h, 17 July Reply

      Yes indeed!

  • an
    Posted at 08:29h, 19 July Reply

    Another great post Tania.
    Loved it!

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